Surprise: It’s not enough to just tell your partner you love them! Pick one (or more!) of these expert relationship resolutions to make 2018 the year you star in your own personal rom-com, happy ending and all.
Avoid the ‘automatic no’ trap
“In 2018, resolve that you will do what your partner prefers unless you have a strong objection to doing it. This is important because it makes your partner feel heard and like their input matters. On the fence? Ask yourself: ‘Is this something worth getting into an argument about?’ Because very few things are.” —Judi Bloom, PsyD, licensed marriage and family therapist in Santa Monica, California (And make sure you’re not guilty of any of these 31 relationship habits that are actually dangerous.)
Be a partner, not a player
“Resolve that you will focus on what is best for the couple and not just what is best for you, individually. This is important because a solid relationship requires putting the needs of the couple first whenever possible, compromising solutions to problems, and keeping communication flowing for a strong connection.” —Bloom
Don’t turn a molehill into a mountain
“This year, couples should resolve to not let little upsets grow into big ones. Little things can become big things if they aren’t addressed head on. So be honest with your partner if they have upset you. Tell them what they have done, why it upset you, and come up with a solution together.” Mitzi Bockmann, counselor and certified life coach for women (Some things really are a big deal though. Find out 13 surprising marriage laws you might be breaking right now.)